Love is….

Love is….

Recently, I started to really think about the definition of LOVE.
So far, here is what I have come up with…

Love is, Give and think for the ones you care for, there is no logical reason why you do it. You just do.

Love is, selfless realization by putting the needs of the ones you love just as high if not higher than your own needs.

Love is, learning and teaching something that feeds the curiocity.

Membership...

*Sigh

After my recent NYC trip, I think I am officially turning in my mancard membership.

*Sigh

Empty...

Not sure if it is the changing of the seasons (or maybe it's just my cold these days). But I am feeling very empty these days. Normally, this would sound like I am going into a cycle of melodramatic depression, but on the contrary, I think this is a very good thing for my personal growth.

I suddenly feel empty and alone becuase I think I am so close of letting myself go on whatever that has bound and chained me in the past. Youthful naivety? unrealistic hopes and expectations? whatever. I know that I am so close of just letting it go. Not becasuse I finally killed my inner demons. But more so because I am running out of the fuel to even try to care.

Birthday Wish...

Just one this year: To Mom, Dad, Sisters and those that I love to stay healthy, be happy and prosperous. That's all.

Oh! and save more of these too---->

Fitting....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eoBaZmmdluM


This song has always been my favorite (I still haven't figured out how to post the actual song as a video in this thang), but this year, the song definitely has that extra, special meaning....

fitting.

Half Marathon

5 Things I learned about half marathons.

1. I hate it
2. It's boring (I'd very my rather swim and cycling than doing a half marathlon)
3. When doing it, be sure to wear a shirt that are silky near the your boobage area.
4. Pace yourself
5. When it is too hot, quit rather than contine

Anyway, with a totally lack of preparation (I found out 1 day before that I am running it). After my race, I realized that I am still in a fairly good shape. I hope I keep this up into my 30s.

Positive Changes

Over the past few month, I noticed that I have evolved quite a bit, in a good sense.
I find myself less idealistic, romantic, impulsive and less believing. I find myself seeing things more clearly, feeling things more real, and longing for things that matters in the grand scheme of things and lasting…

What caused these changes. I think my long over due realization in June definitely help a lot, also the experiences in July (good and bad) also help me grew this summer.

Though I will never by cynical about life. I know where I stand, and that is the me from now till….next time I feel like I need ot be idealistic, romantic and impusive :P

Far Away, So close

For some sentimental reason, this is how I feel now.
Those who are so close is so far away, and those that are so far away is so close.

strange

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=838dPcVq0c4

At Ease

I haven’t had time to write a blog entry for a while. So here is an entry to fill my readers on what has been going on with me lately.

As some of my closest friends may know. June 2009 was a very interesting month for me with all the transitions with my father moving back to Taiwan permanently and the fact that I’ve finally break free from the mental and emotional chain that I placed on me for the past 4 years. At the moment, I genuinely feel at ease. And I am hoping that as I progress, I will improve and make the fullest of every moment and experience here on.

I genuinely enjoy coming home to my two high maintenance dogs and walk them at the park and spend a quiet evening reading and watching TV with them.

I genuinely enjoy cleaning my pad on the weekends and shop for new furniture here and there (not super expensive, but nice) to make the pad I have a more enjoyable place to live (I am actually am becoming a neat freak now believe it or not).

I genuinely enjoy spending more time with new (and old) people in my life and learn new things about them I haven’t been noticing before.

I genuinely enjoy having good companies over and just spend time watching movies or playing chess or board games with a glass of wine and good music.

I genuinely enjoy finally seeing things and people for whom and what they are instead of what I wish they are.

I genuinely enjoy listening to words of wisdoms from old and young and friends on life’s perspective (one of my favorite was from my friend Steph, it goes something like “Well so what if you feel she is not the right one for you, she is right now right?”) ß wise words, but that just floored me laughing.

And finally, I genuinely enjoy and treasure and appreciate all the things and experience I have now. And I am excited for the trips I am going to embark in Aug and Sep. Buenos Aires and Portugal here I come!

Wonder Girls

Hahaha. They are coming to the State Side.

Allen, isn't this tone catchy.


http://perezhilton.com/2009-06-26-its-here-3

Life's little twists

Have you ever made decisions based on gut feel? Decisions that seemed dumb and totally illogical to your own interest (from other's perspective...even your own from time to time) when you think about in a later time? However, at the moment you made the decision, you KNOW and know clearly, whole heartedly and exactly why you made that decision, even in the heat of the moment?

Well, recently, I had that moment. and as unexplainable as it is, I made a choice.
Stupid? Totally!
Regret? Sure I do.

But it IS the right decision....and more importantly, I did it my way...I guess.

What I am looking for is there and I know what it is. I may never get it or succeed but. I did it MY way and it is what it is.

Now, I am left listening to this song.

Weezer - Perfect Situation.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WgR-l3fhygw

Duck tale

Funny story....The banker's got good hands. watch the video.

http://www.komonews.com/news/local/45367342.html

So wrong....

But I am ROFL.

http://www.nbcsandiego.com/news/entertainment/Must-See-TV-Mother-Lover-SNL-.html

My Fav pic.

Inspiring isn't it!

1979...

Favorite Beer

Had a chance to sample the Hoegaarden Grand Cru today. So refreshing :P brings back fond memories in Europe for me.

Updates...

As some of you may know, my house hunting project has been put on a temporary hold (hopefully not for long). I have passed on a really nice condo in Quail Hill (I would like to call it the Beverly Hills of Irvine) back in January because of some Fung Shui concerns my mom had (she was adamant about it so in the end I figured that if buying a house is going to cause family frictions, what is the point).
And again I passed on a nice house in the not so lovely Chino Hills in March (sorry banker, its just not my type of hood, too much of a family feel), because I just don’t quite "feel it", that and the fact it is within a few miles to Chino Hills prison which my realtor did not disclose to me during the showing was a deal breaker.

So needless to say, I am back on the drawing board. I am not bummed about it, I am just going to take a deep breath and figure out WHAT exactly I want. With my HOME, as one other thing I consider important in my life, once I know that it is IT, I will absolutely have not doubt :P I hope that house will appear soon and give me that luving feeling.

As with family. My mommy went back to Taiwan yesterday after one month stay here. Though I wish she can stay longer, we did spend quite a bit of quality time together (with my dad away to Taiwan, Japan and Korea in his tennis trip and all). Though she still annoys me sometimes with her nagging, I still enjoyed her month long stay here. We talked about lots of stuffs in our regular Saturday or Sunday morning walks thru Huntington Library and brunch, and one thing I absolutely get from our conversations is the feeling of how tenacious she is about what she believes in, and her dedication towards family and loved ones. I think (wish) I can inherit that trait (even though I still have a long ways to go) - Family and loved ones comes first before myself.

With work. As much as I am bored with my current situation (more or less a feeling of not wanting to apply fully my potential), I do have to admit that I have a pretty good job. The P&L pressure and the ownership of the business over the past two years has taught me something about seeing the big picture, working with team members to get things done, managing different types of personality both up and down. And above all, humility and FEAR (yes fear). Without fear, I would be too comfortably what my ability entails, and that that will make me fall behind. I don’t want that.


Other than these things, I really don’t have much that I want and ask for. As long as people I love and care are happy, healthy and well, I have nothing else I want…. Triathlon season is coming soon, time to train :P

Active Mind...

I think I must have very active mind these days. I had a dream about aurora of all things last night. It looked absolutely stunning in the dream (coupled with some violin music in the dream). I know, and this is a promise to someone too, I will see it one day….in less than 8 years...

Power of Dream....Ghetto style

I had weird dream last night, (a super crass one that I normally wouldn't have). This dream actually woke me up around 5:30 this morning with a huge (and confused) grin on my face. Anywho, when I told my friend about it today (after having rofl) the suggestion was that I MUST be having too much energy today and I should try the channel this engergy somewhere else :P

Having not much things to do after work, I decided to take on this good suggestion and run my highschool’s X country course which is near my work.

Lo and behold, I actually IMPROVED my time by more than 1 min and 30 sec vs. the week prior. What do you know :P

Anyway, I am not super tired tho and am ready for a good night sleep….zzzzz

The Best Band.....EVER

Of course you know I am talking about THE LED ZEPPELIN.
I didn't really get into the Zep until this year (after my Van Morrison phase, Astral Weeks is another great album by the way)

Jimmy Page, Robert Plant, John Paul Jones, and John Bonham are the gods of rock. There will never be another group of musican

Beetles are too soft. The Rolling Stones lasted too long. U2 got stupid and became political. Oasis had those few good songs. But NONE can rock it like Led Zeppelin.

Here are the must listen song for you guys sitting in your living room or study rocking it LOUD.

1. D'yer Maker
2. Immigrant Song
3. Kashimir
4. Whole Lotta Love
5. When the Levee Break
6. Trampled Underfoot
7. Black Dog
8. Babe I'm gonna leave you
9. Dazed and Confused
10. Stairway to Heaven

Trust me on this, just go get the album "Mothership" and listen it cover to cover!

Shopping....Chinese Woman Style

Today, as promised, I took my dear mother to Cabazon for what I thought would be a quick, easy and trouble-free shopping trip. But I obviously under estimated the power, endurance, ruthlessness and determination of a Chinese middle age shopaholic.

It was truly a site to see, but despite all the hassels, I did enjoy spend time with mommy since she's heading back in about one month. All in all, we had interesting conversations on the way there, and in between her shopping breaks (not on the way back though cause toward the end, I got pretty annoyed with her on how much she had bought for her friends and relatives....nothing for herself btw which sucks).

Anywho, from our conversations, it is very apparant that she still worries for me and my younger sis the most. For my sis, she is concerned about where she is going with her career, the guy she is dating, etc. etc. typical stuffs. As for me, she basicall thinks (in a Chinese proverb) that my "shoulders" need to be stronger and tougher to carry on my responsiblities, not only to myself and the family, but to the ones I truly care for.


To that, all I can say is that I will do my best :P

Now to what I recommend....

Now, these are the things worth your ears.

1. I've been delievered, The Wallflowers (A song that makes me believe in simplicity and basic human honesty and kindness)

2. Rebel Yell, Billy Idol (My running song, when I need that extra ooomph when running or swimming, I pull out this song)

3. Rain. Ryuichi Sakamoto (Recently "discovered" this artist, it is a simple and elegant song constructed with Cello, violin and piano, can you figure out the logic in the song?)

4. Sexy Love. Neyo. (Didn't think I'd listen to this one did you? but I absolutely love this song and can't get tired of it)

5. Army of me. Bjork (My intense evil song)

6. Gimme Shelter, Rolling Stones (Song that makes me wonder about what is to come to this world, or Final Fantasy for some reason)

7. Son of a preacherman, Dusty Springfield (My soul music of the month)

8. Kashmir, Led Zeppelins (My favorite song from one of the best band EVER, to me, its their best song, not Stairway to Heaven)

9. Sour Times, Portishead (my "lonetime" song)

10. I hate this part, Pussycat Dolls (My secret pleasure)

11. La Vie en Rose, Louis Armstrong (Wall-E)

12. Island in the Sun, Weezer (My vacation song that I'll play when....well I take vaction)

13. The next Episode +Nothin' But a "G" Thang, Dre and snoop (My gangsta song...while driving thru the rough neiborhood of Irvine Cali, 949 G!)

14. Beautiful, Akon ( My reminder!)

15. Teardrop, Massive Attach (My latenight cruuusing song)


Now, go download these songs to help the economy (or I'll burn you a copy)

I never thought I'd say this....but U2, U are totally SUCKING

I had been a huge U2 fan in my teens and twenties. However, I must say that their works has gone totally down hill, other than Joshua Tree, Actung Baby and All that you can’t leave behind, U2 has pretty much putting out garbage over the years. I’ve just about had it with Bono’s political messages. Sometimes, music should just remain music, strumming human emotions with sound, nothing else.

I am so glad I didn’t almost buy their latest album. Two thumbs way down for me!

(speaking of which, Oasis’ new stuffs sucked too, I guess there is such thing call limitation of artistry). Blah

My Tax Return treat to myself....

"RISK" LORD OF THE RING EDITION!!!!

The Lord of the Rings has inspired many board games through the years, including Lord of the Rings Risk.

If you're familiar with Risk, you know the basics of this game. Armies move across a map, fighting each other in an attempt to gain control of the world. But LotR Risk adds some new elements, including:

· All territories are places found in Middle-earth.

· Mountains and rivers on the map create impassable barriers.

· The armies represent Elven Archers, Orcs, the Riders of Rohan, the Dark Riders, the mighty Eagles, and Cave Trolls.

· Each player has a Leader, which allows players to add 1 to any die roll.

· Sea ports allow greater movement of battalions.

· Sites of Power give players the chance to complete missions for rewards.

· The One Ring moves from the Shire along a pre-determined path. When it leaves the Dead Marshes, the game ends.

Lord of the Rings Risk is for 2 to 4 players (original Risk is for 2 to 6). The board is divided into 6 regions of Middle-earth, taken from the first two books of the trilogy (so Gondor and Mordor are not featured): Rhun, Mirkwood, Eriador, Rohan, Rhovanion, and Arnor.

There are 42 territory cards, along with 2 wild cards. These are used in a manner similar to the territory cards in original Risk, to earn reinforcements. Unlike original Risk, the number of reinforcements is constant (4, 6, 8, or 10 armies depending on the mix of cards you have) -- it does not increase as the game progresses.
The game also has 40 adventure cards, of which there are three types: mission, event and power.
Examples of each type of adventure card:

· Mission: "Grey Havens - Mithlond - Receive extra battalions in Mithlond." (Move your leader into Mithlond to receive extra battalions.)

· Event: "Winter Storms - Play immediately. Draw the top 3 Territory cards. No player can attack from or into these Territories until the start of your next turn."

· Power: "You Shall Not Pass! - Play at the start of your turn. Choose one bridge to block until the start of your next turn. No battalions may cross the bridge unless accompanied by a leader." (Some rivers have bridges over them.)

Six of the 42 territories are designated as strongholds, and defenders get to add 1 to their highest defensive dice roll.

The winner can be determined one of two ways. If one player takes control of the entire map before the One Ring leaves the Dead Marshes, that player is the winner (this is the less likely outcome). More often, the winner is determined by adding points at the end of the game: one point for each occupied territory, extra points for complete regions, two points for each stronghold, and extra points for played adventure cards played.

My Fav R&B tune

I don't know much about R&B. But this one is by far my fav.
Javier - Crazy

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E4-Om2IIcdg

Classic Person....

Only for those of you who can read Chinese....
What a shame that my Chinese - English translation ability is so poor and that alot of the thing described about him cannot be properly conveyed in English.

生平

[編輯] 高臥東山

《東山絲竹圖》 佚名 北京故宮博物院藏，該圖所繪即謝安隱居東山時與朋友遊玩的景象

謝安出生名門陳郡謝氏，父親謝裒曾任太常卿，屬於東晉士族。謝家人大多風流瀟灑，被稱為「謝家蘭玉真門戶」[3]「謝家子弟，衣冠磊落」[4]，謝安年僅四歲時，便被桓彝稱許，認為他「風神秀徹」，長大以後，不在王承之下[5]。謝安十三歲時，聲名就已經傳到遼東，連當時才七歲的慕容垂都特地送來一對白狼眊作為禮物[6]。謝安得到了當世王導[7]以下幾乎所有名士的推崇[8]，因而一舉一動都被世人仿效。曾經有他的老鄉回家沒有路費，只有五萬把根本賣不出去的蒲葵扇，謝安得知以後，便抓了把扇子來用，結果人人仿效，積壓的扇子不久便全部高價售出[9]。他和王羲之及王獻之父子均交好，曾一起參加蘭亭集會，即《蘭亭集序》中所記載的那次。
謝安起初曾做了一個月的小官「著作郎」，但很快就以生病為由辭官回家。他長期在東山隱居，一邊教育子弟，一邊與名流來往，常攜歌妓，在會稽周圍和朋友一起遊玩。他為人鎮定自若，曾和孫綽、王羲之等出海遊玩而遇到暴風雨，眾人皆慌亂不已，只有謝安不為所動，並勸眾人慌亂無濟於事，不如冷靜思考，眾人因此而得以安全歸來。[10]
謝安的聲名越來越響，被推崇為江左「風流第一」，世人皆稱「安石不肯出，將如蒼生何？」[11]

[編輯] 教育子弟
謝安在東山時，兄弟的子女都歸他教養。他善於教育子弟，往往以身作則，潛移默化[12][13]。其中以謝道韞，謝玄姐弟最為出色，也最受謝安喜愛[14]。謝安曾問子侄們分別喜歡《詩經》中的哪一句，謝玄說是：「楊柳依依」，謝道韞說是：「吉甫作頌，穆如清風」，謝安因此而稱讚謝道韞有「雅人深致」[15]，而謝安自己則最喜歡「訏謨定命，遠猶辰告」[16][17]，這一句也被後世史學家認為是他的政治思想的概括。
謝安很注重孩子們的自尊心。謝玄小時候好虛榮，佩戴了紫羅香囊，謝安沒有直接指責，而是打賭贏了香囊以後當面燒毀，以此來教育謝玄不適宜佩戴這樣浮華的東西[18]。謝朗不知道「熏老鼠」的笑話是自己父親謝據的，也跟著世人一起嘲笑，謝安知道以後，故意把自己也說成做這件傻事，啟發謝朗去懂得不應該隨意嘲笑別人[19]。

[編輯] 東山再起
360年，謝萬兵敗，被廢為庶人，陳郡謝氏一族再無重要人物在朝。謝安不得不「東山再起」，入桓溫幕府為司馬。謝安與桓溫雖然政治立場不一致，但仍然非常相得，彼此都很推崇對方[20]。後來桓溫到了因立場相左而打算殺掉謝安的時候，仍然對旁人稱讚謝安不已[21]。
謝安在桓溫幕府不久，謝萬去世，謝安以服喪為由辭職，不久又被丞相司馬昱推薦為吳興太守，任內百姓安居樂業。幾年後，升為侍中。
371年，譙國桓氏的桓溫廢司馬奕，改立司馬昱為帝，族誅陳郡殷氏、潁川庾氏兩家三支士族，貶斥武陵王為庶人，實際控制了東晉的所有州府，聲勢如日中天[22][23][24]。謝安與另外兩家大士族——太原王氏和琅琊王氏的王坦之、王彪之等人聯合，與之周旋[25]，並於372年七月簡文帝病重之時，逼簡文帝改寫遺詔，阻止了簡文帝打算將政權拱手讓給桓溫的打算。桓溫得知以後，大怒，率軍入京，欲「誅王謝，移晉鼎」，太后褚蒜子命謝安與王坦之去新亭迎接，王坦之慌亂不已，以至於在見到桓溫以後倒持笏版，汗濕重衣；謝安卻很鎮定，不僅在臨行前安慰王坦之說「晉祚存亡，在此一行」，並在見到桓溫以後，從容就席，問桓溫：「安聞諸侯有道，守在四鄰，明公何須壁後置人邪？」桓溫笑答：「正自不能不爾耳。」二人笑著談了很久，一場大禍化解于無形[26]。桓溫後來病重，想讓朝廷給他加九錫，讓袁宏起草。謝安見了以後，總是借故修改，拖延時間，沒幾天，桓溫病故，加九錫的事情也就不再被提起了[27]。
桓溫死了以後，謝安為了調和晉室與桓氏的矛盾而頗費苦心。374年，謝安先以王坦之出領徐兗二州刺史而從桓氏取回徐州和兗州，然後又迫使桓溫之弟桓沖出讓揚州，轉而任命其領荊州，謝安自領揚州（非今日之揚州市），終於達到「荊揚相衡，則天下平」的目的，並取得了桓氏的諒解與合作，建立起一個相對牢固的防禦陣線，共同對付北方的前秦苻堅。

[編輯] 淝水之戰
太元元年〔376年〕，孝武帝司馬矅開始親政，謝安升中書監、錄尚書事，總攬朝政，陳郡謝氏成為東晉的最後一個「當軸士族」。同年，苻堅統一了中國北方，前秦與東晉的戰爭已經臨近。當時的東晉，長江上游由桓氏掌握，下游則屬於謝氏當政，謝安儘力調和桓謝兩大家族關係，以為即將爆發的戰爭作準備。[28]

[編輯] 戰前準備
377年，廣陵缺乏良將防守，謝安不顧他人議論，極力舉薦自己的侄子謝玄出任兗州刺史，鎮守廣陵，負責長江下游江北一線的軍事防守。謝安則自己都督揚州、豫州、徐州、兗州、青州五州軍事，總管長江下游。謝玄不負叔父重托，在廣陵挑選良將，訓練精兵，選拔了劉牢之、何謙等人，並訓練出一支在當時的整個中國最具有戰鬥力的精兵——北府兵。

[編輯] 第一階段：淮南之戰
378年四月，前秦征南大將軍苻丕率步騎7萬人進攻襄陽。苻堅又另派10萬多人，分三路合圍襄陽，總計投入兵力17萬。襄陽守將朱序死守近一年後，于太元四年（379年）二月城破被俘。苻堅又派彭超圍攻彭城，秦晉淮南之戰爆發。謝安在建康布防，又令謝玄率5萬北府兵，自廣陵起兵應敵。謝玄四戰四勝，全殲秦軍。戰後，謝安因功晉封建昌縣公，謝玄晉封東興縣侯。

[編輯] 第二階段：淝水之戰
太元八年（383年）五月，桓沖傾10萬荊州兵伐秦，以牽制秦軍，減輕對下游的壓力，苻堅派苻睿、慕容垂、姚萇和慕容暐等人迎戰，自己親率步兵60萬，騎兵27萬，以弟苻融為先鋒，于八月大舉南侵。謝安臨危受命，以謝石為前線大都督，謝玄為先鋒，並謝琰、桓伊等人，領8萬兵馬，分三路迎擊秦軍。十一月，謝玄遣劉牢之以5千精兵奇襲，取得洛澗大捷，秦軍折損10名大將，5萬主力。十二月，雙方決戰淝水，謝玄、謝琰和桓伊率領晉軍7萬戰勝了苻堅和苻融所統率的前秦15萬大軍，並陣斬苻融。淝水之戰以晉軍的全面勝利告終。

[編輯] 戰後影響
淝水之戰的巨大勝利，謝安的事先籌劃功不可沒。而且謝安從戰前的「圍棋賭墅」到戰後的「小兒輩大破賊」，自始至終一直採取極為冷靜的態度，對於穩定當時建康的人心起到了關鍵的作用。此次戰爭的前線將領也是謝家嫡系子弟的謝石謝玄謝琰等人，謝家的聲望達到頂峰，引起了司馬氏皇室的戒備，以至於淝水戰功，竟然沒有封賞，直到兩年後的謝安死後，司馬曜方才因淝水戰功追封謝安以廬陵郡公。

[編輯] 北伐、去世

淝水之戰到北伐時期的南北形勢圖，圖中黑線為淝水之戰之前雙方實際控制區域分界線，紅線為北伐勝利到謝安去世時期的雙方實際控制區域分界線
桓沖在淝水之戰之後不久去世，臨死前將桓氏子弟托付謝安。謝安為了安定「荊揚相衡」的局面，放棄了以謝玄任荊江兩州刺史的機會，改以桓氏子弟出任，緩和了桓謝兩大士族的關係，為東晉接下來的大規模北伐穩定了後方。[29]
384年八月，謝安起兵北伐。東路的謝玄領北府兵自廣陵北上，一路收復了兗州青州司州豫州，中路和西路的桓氏則出兵攻克了魯陽和洛陽，並收復了梁州和益州。至此，淝水之戰前秦晉以淮河－漢水－長江一線為界的局面改成了以黃河為界，整個黃河以南地區重新歸入了晉朝的版圖，見右圖。
北伐節節勝利以後，司馬氏和部分朝臣對謝安非常猜忌[30]，世人也有懷疑謝安會像王莽那樣篡位奪權[31]，謝安「素退為業」，主動交出手上權利，于385年四月自請出鎮廣陵，都督北伐軍事。不久，劉牢之于鄴城被慕容垂擊敗，謝安不得不調整部署，將進攻轉為調整以鞏固黃河防線。
8月，謝安病重，自廣陵還京醫治，由西州門入建康[32][33]，不久，于8月22日，病逝建康，享年66歲，諡號曰「文靖」。
謝安葬禮同霍光、王導以及桓溫等人同規格，有「九旒鸞輅，黃屋左纛，縕輬車，輓歌二部，羽葆鼓吹，武賁班劍百人」，為皇帝級別的葬禮[34]。後謝安妻劉氏去世，也用同等葬儀[35]。

謝安致謝萬的親手書信

謝安《八月五日帖》，收入《寶晉齋法帖》

[編輯] 名言
「晉祚存亡，在此一行。」
「小兒輩大破賊。」
「可將當軸，了其此處。」
「見之乃不使人厭，然出戶去，不復使人思。」
「天地無知，使伯道無兒。」
「顧長康畫，有蒼生來所無。」

[編輯] 與之相關的成語
【東山再起】[36]
【圍棋賭墅】[37]
【新會蒲葵】[38]
【雅人深致】[39]
【一往奔詣】[40]
【老翁可念】[41]
【屋下架屋】[42]
【一往情深】[43]
【前倨後恭】[44]
【小兒破賊】[45]

[編輯] 書法
謝安曾從王羲之學行書，其書法非常出色，後世米芾曾稱讚他的書法「山林妙寄，岩廊英舉，不繇不羲，自發淡古。」

[編輯] 趣聞
謝安曾聽人說梁山伯與祝英台的故事，深受感動，上奏請求表其墓為「義婦冢」[46]。
謝安的字與宋朝王安石的名正好相同，後來王安石退居金陵，買的宅院正好在謝安的府邸舊址，宅內有以謝安命名的「謝公墩」。王安石於是戲作詩道：「我名公字偶相同，我屋公墩在眼中。公去我來墩屬我，不應墩姓尚隨公。」[47]時人評曰：「與死人爭地。」謝安與王導皆居秦淮河畔，乃三國孫權舊部烏衣部隊之駐地，世稱烏衣巷。
謝安的鑒賞力不同一般，他曾評「劉牢之不能獨任」，「王味之不宜專城」，均先後應驗；他評顧愷之的畫為「有蒼生來所無」；他還曾讚同王羲之的書法勝於王獻之的觀點[48]。
謝安欣賞真性情的女子，他的嫂嫂王夫人曾經不顧禮節親自出面從席上帶走其子，謝安不以為忤，反而讚歎王夫人情辭慷慨，可惜不能讓朝中大臣們一見[49]。他所欣賞的妻子劉夫人和侄女謝道蘊，也都是這樣的真性情女子，前者曾屢屢戲弄謝安，後者曾當全家人的面鄙薄自己的丈夫[50]，這些不合「禮法」的行為在謝安看來卻是出自真性情，非常值得欣賞。
謝安為吏部尚書的時候，王導的嫡孫王珣娶謝萬的女兒為妻，王珉娶謝安的女兒為妻，均夫妻不和。謝安鄙薄王珣為人，不惜與琅琊王氏嫡系一支交惡，徑自讓侄女和女兒離婚改嫁。雙方因此不通往來許多年[51]。謝安死後，王珣雖政治上一直打壓謝氏以求報復，但仍然從會稽專程趕到建康去哭喪，禮畢，連手也不和謝琰握就徑自離去。[52]

[編輯] 後世評價

謝安像，立於福建漳州

[編輯] 學者
《晉書》評價：
「建元之後，時政多虞，巨猾陸梁，權臣橫恣。其有兼將相於中外，系存亡于社稷，負扆資之以端拱，鑿井賴之以晏安者，其惟謝氏乎！」
「文靖始居塵外，高謝人間，嘯詠山林，浮泛江海，當此之時，蕭然有陵霞之致。暨于褫薜蘿而襲硃組，去衡泌而踐丹墀，庶績於是用康，彝倫以之載穆。苻堅百萬之眾已瞰吳江，桓溫九五之心將移晉鼎，衣冠易慮，遠邇崩心。從容而杜奸謀，宴衎而清群寇，宸居獲太山之固，惟揚去累卵之危，斯為盛矣。」
「太保沈浮，曠若虛舟。任高百辟，情惟一丘。」
唐人李白在安史之亂中有詩曰： 「三川北虜亂如麻，四海南奔似永嘉。但用東山謝安石，為君談笑靜胡沙。」
宋人蘇軾亦有詞水調歌頭，其上闋曰：
「安石在東海，從事鬢驚秋。中年親友難別，絲竹緩離愁。一旦功成名遂，准擬東還海道，扶病入西州。雅志困軒冕，遺恨寄滄洲。」
範文瀾《中國通史》曰:
「東晉朝內部出現前所未有的和睦氣象，是和謝安完全繼承王導力求大族問勢力平衡的作法分不開的。」
「東晉朝建立以來，這是最大的一次戰勝擴地。取勝的重要原因之一就是內部和睦，有些力量可以對外。」

[編輯] 民間
謝安逝世之後，民間尊奉為神祇，稱為「謝千歲」、「謝聖王」、「謝王公」、「謝老元帥」、「廣惠聖王」、「廣惠尊王」、「廣應尊王」、「顯濟靈王」、「護國尊王」等。[53]。
陳元光軍隊入漳州時，攜帶謝安之香火，並尊奉謝安為「廣惠王」。而廣惠王的信仰，也隨著漳州人來到南洋、台灣等地。[54]。

[編輯] 家庭

[編輯] 兄弟輩
謝安在他的兄弟裡面排行第三，
長兄謝奕，為人不拘小節，有「方外司馬」之稱。
次兄謝據，早亡，子女由謝安撫養。
四弟謝萬，好虛名，曾兵敗被廢為庶人，以散騎常侍卒。
五弟謝石，名將，淝水之戰的主帥。
六弟謝鐵，永嘉太守，生平不詳。
謝安還有位堂兄謝尚。

[編輯] 妻子
謝安妻劉氏，劉惔之妹，機智幽默，謝安和她感情很好，常和她一起議論時事人物。她性格剛強，不許謝安納妾，有名言「周姥撰詩，當無此語」[55][56]。

[編輯] 子侄
謝家子弟均系謝安隱居東山時親自教養，故將其中傑出人物全部列出，不限於謝安之子。
謝道韞，謝奕長女，謝玄之姊，著名才女，被認為有竹林七賢的遺風。[57][58]。
謝玄，謝奕第七子，「封胡羯末」四才子[59]中的「羯」[60]。淝水之戰和北伐的前線指揮者，北府兵的創建者和統帥。
謝朗，謝據之子，「封胡羯末」四才子中的「胡」，早亡[61]。
謝琰，謝安次子，「封胡羯末」四才子中的「末」[62]，淝水之戰的前線將領，戰死。[63]。
謝韶，謝萬之子，「封胡羯末」四才子中的「封」，早亡[64]。

[編輯] 參見

Thoughts

A close friend of mine called me out the other day. She said that I’ve been complacent with my life. To that, I admit, it is true.

After sitting outside under a brightly lit moon light for what seems to be eternity. I realized that the time for my complacency is over. It is time to man up and face the music. From this moment on, I will view my life for what it “is” and not dwelling on what “could have been” or what “might be”. Present is all that I can control. And I will make the best out of it.

My “presents”.

My family and loved ones, without you, whatever I have, whatever I experienced, would just be meaningless and selfish. Trust me in that I will put you guys above anything else in the world, even myself. What I gave and can give is insignificant when compared to what I have received already. It is my duty as the first son and as a man.

Life. I owe myself the fullest life experience I can create for myself. There is no rewind in life. I’ve been fortunate to have and experience interesting things in my 32 years so far; while it may not be the most exciting from some eyes, it is exciting and makes me feel happy and alive (my trips, my learns from others, my triathlons, my books, my music, and my random observations). I am truly blessed. I will continue to explore and cherish all that life can offer and absorb all these experiences.


Myself. More specifically my needs rather than my wants. Needs, I don’t have much. Wants, I will measure if I deserve them or not for these are only temporarily things.